Bismillah

I couldn’t tell you this before because all the while it was happening I couldn’t log onto this site… But Zahra really got a dose of the imphamise ‘Terrible Twos’ she just turned 19 months on the 23rd and something inside of her must of snapped or unleashed a pretwoyearold monster that I can not begin to explain. She throws these tantrums around like a pare of old dingy socks and they stink!!! I just watch her and walk away but they have grown in intensity.

It’s been about two in a half weeks since it has seriously gone down, and now she has lessoned her spells of terror. I think it was because of this;

At night, ever since her terrible twos began, Zahra turned into a monster that no matter what I did, I could not control nor could I sooth. She kicked me and screamed and hollered wanting me to rock her to sleep yet wanting me to stand until she fell asleep. If I attempted to sit she became angry, I attempted to lay down and sleep while holding her (as I use to be able to do) she broke down and was over come with anger and untaiming emotion. So many a night I ended up just putting her down and laying down myself. I could not sooth her, not please her, and the both of us were driving the other crazy. My husband ended up sleeping, or trying to sleep down stairs away from the noise, but he usually woke me up at about 5 am holding Zahra and telling me he has to get ready for work now. Apparently he took her and was able to sooth her to sleep, but was not aware of it.

Eventually I told my husband I couldn’t handle this routine any more even though it had only been going on for a week ( which is actually a long time with no sleep). I couldn’t take waking up fifteen times and then fighting Zahra to fall back to sleep and going through her anger and rage because I couldn’t help her in the way she wanted me to. So after a bit of research I came to the conclusion of getting her a night light and after a bed time routine laying her in bed and closing the door for her to put her self to sleep. This wasn’t a hard concept to grasp for me at first because I had become so irratated with our sleeping arangement I just wanted her to get away from me at that time of the night. But after night fell on the selected evening, Zahra fell asleep early and we didn’t get to do our nighttime routine. I laid her in the bed and she was asleep just like that… I was happy but after I closed the door and 2am rolled around… it was on.

She cried like life had ending as she new it and it devastated her, I was so overtaken by emotion that finally I gave in and went to her. That night didn’t go well, but finally two nights later we finally did our night time routine which she loves I am sure. And I told her I love her and will see her in the morning Insha’Allah and gave her a bear to sleep with… she looked sad and like she really wanted to run to me and beg me to save her from being alone but… She didn’t and she stayed there and sleep all through the night!

It surprised me in a way that nothing else could, I was so happy and proud of her that I just kissed her and hugged her and told her what a big girl she is… She was happy.. she told me ‘mommy appy appy’

Ever since then she’s been much much better and putting her self to sleep and sleeping nicely through the night.

Masha’Allah thank you ya Allah!!!

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